What do you do...

[Modderrhu]

... when your life has just come crashing down around your ears?
When the bottom of your world has just fallen out?
When every faith and trust that you\'ve been holding onto fails?
When every exhalation feels as though it\'s sapping you of strength?
When despair makes you want to howl?

Situational details are unnecessary, just want to know how people cope.

 

[matty1001]

Go for a walk and take some photos.

 

[squidders]

spend some time in the woods... or throw myself in to something time consuming, usually work. I know deep down that it\'s just hiding from whatever problem but they all get dealt with sooner or later.

If this is happening to you right now, I wish you good luck and strength.

 

[PegaZus]

Tear up a newspaper into itty-bitty bits. Or, at least that\'s what I did as a teenager.

Got me some therapy sessions because of it.

Therapist agreed with my reasons to be upset and said I didn\'t need any more sessions. It was normal. Told my Dad not to waste his money.

Now? I search for the funny on the internet.

 

[JesterzUSMC]

Find what little strength remains, gatherit it up and pick up the pieces.
Force yourself to do the things required, breathe, try to find your center.
Maybe have a good cry, then find someone to have a good laugh. Even if the laughter turns into more crying.
Lean on your friends.
And most importantly....

SCREAM AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS.......

\"I AIN\'T BEAT YET!!!\"

 

[Evil Dave]

You trudge through and remember that while it may be bleak now you will eventually get over it. Even though you may feel like it won\'t, in time, everything passes.

 

[farseerlum]

cry myself to sleep into my pillow and start it all over again in the morning.

 

[Torn blue sky]

Funny you should say this now Mod lol

Personally? I pick myself up by the bootstraps and plough on. While life is generally shit, like evil dave said; it\'ll get better one day. You just need to remember these things every day.

Never give up hope and find strength in your heart. \"It can\'t rain all the time...\"

 

[philologus]

Find someone to talk with. Someone who respects your privacy and exercises discretion.

 

[lono]

I\'ve never felt quite that terrible to be perfectly honest. I have experienced a more melancholy mood than ever before over the past few months, but not to the point of despair. And certainly not to the point of forcing me to jot down my feelings as vividly as you have.

As for dealing, I used to just smoke a joint or ten, but I\'ve quit that shit recently, so I guess that suggesting getting stoned wouldn\'t be the most responsible thing for me to do.

These days I\'ve found that losing myself in books is a massively satisfying, relaxing and enjoyable thing to do. I don\'t know why, but I seem to just be devouring any decent written material at the moment and it chills me completely.

As others have said, if the tone of your post reflects how you currently feel, I think a good amount of human contact and venting about issues is probably the best way to begin addressing things. Probably with some trusted friends, a little bit of alcohol and a readiness to let it all out.

Good luck chief.

 

[EArkham]

You make the pain and sorrow part of your being, and then you move on.

You curl in a ball on the floor if you can\'t stand, cry if you can\'t speak, drink if you\'d rather drown, but ultimately you accept this experience, you try to understand it, and you let it change you.

You can\'t run and hide from it, or squish it into a ball and throw it away. This is who you are, just as meaningful to your existence as every laugh, every smile, every euphoric moment or steadfast belief.

Then you stand up and take a step forward.

Kep

 

[airhead]

Talk to God.

Talk to a friend - not just someone you know, someone you trust to understand where you are at.

Vent.

I\'m not sure what the issue is - at this point it is none of my business, but I can share this (Although it is about grief, it applies to lots of other down emotions as well):

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. All your feelings are normal. It is helpful, however, to know that human grief is a process that often follows a healing pattern.

Shock is the first stage. It is accompanied by disbelief and numbness.

Denial follows quickly, crying \"I don\'t believe it,\" or \"It can\'t be.\"

Bargaining is your promise that \"I\'ll be so very good that maybe I can wake up and find that it isn\'t so.
I\'ll do all the right things if only....\"

Guilt is painful and hard to deal with. This is when one says over and over, \"If only I had...\" or \"If only
I had not...\" This is a normal feeling and ultimately it may be solved by stating, \"I\'m a human being and
I gave the best and worst of me to my friend (child, husband, etc...) and what he or she does with that is his or her responsibility.

Anger is another big factor which seems to be necessary in order to face the reality of life and then to get beyond it. We must all heal in our own ways. Anger is a natural stage through which we must pass.
Your anger at your deceased loved one may even make you feel guilty, or it may be because your own life continues whereas your friend\'s life is over.

Depression is a stage of grief that comes and goes. Knowing this, be prepared to give yourself time to heal.
Resignation is a late stage. It comes when finally you accept the truth.

Acceptance and hope! Understand that you will never be the same but your life can go on to find meaning and purpose.


WHAT TO DO

Share your feelings with someone.
Discuss those feelings openly and frankly.
Show interest and support to those who need your help.
Get professional assistance!



SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION
TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM




From My Son...My Son...A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss, or Suicide
By Iris Bolton
(Bolton Press, 1325 Belmore Way NE, Atlanta GA 30350)
Used With Permission

 

[Torn blue sky]

Originally posted by airhead



SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION
TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM

So very, very true. Kina wish more people would realise that. All they would have to do is look around for strength, i\'d give all I could to a stranger if it made any kind of difference in the matter.

That, however, is a different kettle of fish

 

[supervike]

Originally posted by farseerlum
cry myself to sleep into my pillow and start it all over again in the morning.

Add \"eat till I burst\" in there and you\'ve got my plan down to a \'t\'.

 

[DaN]

Some things in life are bad,
They can really made you mad,
Other things just make you swear and curse,
When you\'re chewing on gristle,
Don\'t grumble - give a whistle,
And this\'ll help things turn out for the best...

 

[Highbulp Billy]

I suggest finding something in your life that gives it meaning and gives you a reason to carry on no matter what. For me it\'s my son - when life gets on top of me (far too often nowadays) I\'ll sit and watch him sleep and tell myself that everything I go through is for him. You\'ll have to find your own focus (I\'m not posting Baby Bulp to you every time you feel down) or even keep a list of postives and things that make you happy handy to refer to whenever you need to refer to it.

 

[fieldarchy]

That\'s what booze is for! And country music.

<sings> I got friends in low places where the whiskey drowns and the beer chases my blues away! And I\'ll be ok! </sings>

 

[supervike]

On a more serious note, I went through a \'time\' where I felt everything was collapsing.

Talking to other folks about it is especially helpful...and somewhat liberating.

It\'s hard to do, i know, but it does help.

 

[Amazon warrior]

\"As the days go by, we face the increasing inevitability that we are alone in a Godless, uninhabited, hostile and meaningless universe. Still, you\'ve got to laugh, haven\'t you?\"

I was in a state exactly like that at the end of September. I felt utterly alone and it was horrible. Here is what I learnt: Never forget how supportive people can be in your hour of need. Help comes from the most unexpected sources at times, and having someone you can lean on is invaluable. You definately need a sympathetic ear and shoulder, and don\'t be afraid to vent a bit. Better out than in! Also, find something you can devote yourself to instead, be it work, painting, reading, whatever. Not only does it distract from the besetting dark, but doing something productive can be very therapeutic.

Edit: And of course, if all else fails, there\'s always tea and chocolate in gut-busting quantities!

 

[Dragon Forge Design]

Depends on the time of the day.. Ill stop..take a deep breath.. have a beer or 3 and then beat the Bastard back..

You make your own luck.. its taken me 42 years to realize that.. but I feel like I might finally win this battle myself.

Life is what you make it my friend. Were only put on this year 70-90 so odd years.. and well there no plan or rules.. each day is an adventure..make the best of it.